Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel
Step into iconic couples therapist Esther Perel and listen as real couples anonymously bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their story. From infidelity, to sexlessness, to loss, it's a space for people to be heard and understood. It's also a place for us to listen and feel empowered in our own relationships. So.. where should we begin? Season three coming spring 2019.
Couples Under Lockdown: Bavaria, GermanyApr 2, 2020 3328
Description:For the last year they have lived in separate countries. She took a dream job closer to where she grew up in Germany and he stayed behind with the promise he would follow soon. Six months turned into a year, which turned into a conversation that questioned the foundation of their marriage. It took the coronavirus to get them back under one roof again. While others might complain about the close quarters, this couple hopes to find themselves in each other again. Esther pushes them to worry less about the love that was, and focus now on the love that is.
Couples Under Lockdown: Sicily, ItalyMar 24, 2020 2980
Description:They left each other emotionally years ago, but with three kids they have been trying to keep it together. For the last two weeks they find themselves confined to a small apartment in Sicily, Italy — he bears the brunt of the domestic duties at home all day. She must report to the hospital every day to help usher in new life as a midwife. Esther helps them come to terms with what these next few months could look like if they learn to communicate with one another in ways that might save their relationship.
Esther Perel's New Show: How's Work?Feb 26, 2020 3032
Description:Today we’re sharing the first episode of Esther Perel’s new show How’s Work? In it, Esther sits down with coworkers, cofounders and colleagues, and brings her inimitable perspective to workplace relationships and conflicts. You can listen to all episodes right now for free on Spotify and weekly everywhere else. https://smarturl.it/hows-work In this episode, friends and fellow dancers at a strip club: one brings years of experience, the other a youthful energy that turns angry at times. They’re here to talk about boundaries that are crossed, educating “civilians" about their work, family acceptance, and how they'll transition from the sex work industry into professional careers. Can sex work be a bullet point on a resume?
Introducing Motherhood SessionsJan 16, 2020 1642
Description:If you like Where Should We Begin?, there's another therapy podcast you might enjoy. It's called Motherhood Sessions, and it's hosted by a friend of Esther's, Dr. Alexandra Sacks. On the show, Dr Sacks sits down with moms in moments of crisis and change, and together they work through each woman's struggles and challenges, whether they're about sex, infertility, adoption, race, poverty, or anything in between. The New York Times calls Motherhood Sessions "consistently riveting" and it was named one of the best podcasts of 2019 by Oprah.com.
Introducing HeavyweightDec 5, 2019 2518
Description:Buzz and Sheldon are brothers in their eighties who have been estranged for decades. Buzz visits Sheldon to see if there’s still a relationship left to salvage. Listen to more episodes of Heavyweight on Spotify or wherever you get your podcasts.
Happily DivorcedNov 21, 2019 3377
Description:They’re a divorced couple whose two-household relationship may prove that a happy family doesn’t have to end with divorce.
Mom and MoniqueNov 14, 2019 3207
Description:They’re a child desperate to connect with their single mother after 28 years of living in the shadow of a special-needs brother.
Introducing Esther's New Podcast: How's Work?Nov 11, 2019 3288
Description:Today we’re sharing the first episode of Esther Perel’s new show How’s Work? In it, Esther sits down with coworkers, cofounders and colleagues, and brings her inimitable perspective to workplace relationships and conflicts. Available only on Spotify. It's free to sign up for Spotify.
A Romantic RevivalNov 7, 2019 2945
Description:He’s away a lot. She’s a stepmother at home to four children whose mother died by suicide. Is there anything left over for her?
The Other WomanOct 31, 2019 3017
Description:She wonders if she can satisfy her attraction to women without losing the husband she loves.
A Small Town AffairOct 24, 2019 3058
Description:Their relationship started with an affair that ended two marriages. Now they wonder if there’s enough trust there to build something stable together.
Young LoveOct 17, 2019 3074
Description:She lives in Mexico, he lives in the US. Their immigration status has forced them to consider marriage sooner than they might have planned.
Season Three TrailerMar 8, 2019 02:41
In the new season of Where Should We Begin? hear six sets of people at different points in their quest for romantic and familial love, including a young couple whose immigration status has forced them to consider marriage, a step-mother trying to put the pieces back together for four children whose mother died by suicide, a non-binary child desperate to connect with their single mother, a divorced couple whose two-household relationship may prove that marriage doesn’t have to end after divorce, and more. Listen and better understand your own relationships through the lives of others and Esther’s remarkable insights.
I Don't Want to Be Your Caregiver, I Want to Be Your WifeApr 27, 2018 45:22
Almost two years ago her husband was diagnosed with early onset Parkinson's Disease. They have three kids, a mortgage to pay, and he has developed some compulsive behaviors he isn't proud of. Esther helps them learn how to turn off the caregiver, and remember they are much more than that to each other.
I've Had 100 Conversations with You in My HeadApr 20, 2018 45:03
[Contains mature themes] After a discovery in her doctor's office, a woman realizes her husband has been unfaithful. While betrayed and angry, she still feels a desire to stick it out for the sake of the kids. He, meanwhile, is desperate to find a way back to her. Esther takes them back to their upbringings and the years before the infidelities to find a place of mutual compassion.
You Can Be Right or You Can Be MarriedApr 13, 2018 43:53
[Contains mature themes] They’ve been together for more than a decade, but this isn’t the first time they’ve separated. Stuck in a cycle of explosive escalations, a husband and wife want to make it work but can’t break their habit of going for the emotional jugular. Esther encourages them to start their conversations differently.
Questions You Aren't Allowed to AskApr 6, 2018 45:16
[Contains mature themes] What began as an eight-year affair between two women has stretched into a 19-year partnership. But despite their private commitment to one another, they’ve never quite managed to move beyond the shame of their origin story. Esther takes a novel approach to revealing a long-held secret.
Leaving the Shame BehindMar 30, 2018 45:40
A young couple has endured a series of crises early in their marriage, from a benign brain tumor to a serious car crash to the husband’s near-fatal heart attack. Following his recovery, he’s adapting to new physical limitations, while she says the children bear the brunt of his frustrations. Esther coaches them through an honest conversation on anger, parenthood and the power of apology.
Ms. Entitlement and Mr. Sacrifice Out On a DateMar 23, 2018 46:46
[Contains mature themes] An on-again, off-again couple in their fifties, dating in a post-divorce landscape, are struggling with different world views, priorities and sexual interests. Recognizing that their polarized dynamic takes the fun out of spending time together, Esther guides both towards less rigid perspectives.
I Want to Feel WantedMar 16, 2018 46:34
After ten years, a husband tells his wife he no longer wishes to be married. A month later, stuck in limbo, they come to Esther. She helps them have an honest conversation about their expectations, desires, and the ways in which their role as parents has left little room for intimacy.
You Need Help to Help HerMar 9, 2018 45:20
[Contains mature themes] A husband and wife are united in their desire to help their daughter, two years after she suffered a breakdown and moved home, shutting herself off from her family and friends. Esther urges them to examine the way pressure and expectations – no matter how well-intentioned – can shape a child’s upbringing.
I Can’t Give You a ChildDec 1, 2017 40:45
[Contains mature themes] A woman realizes she doesn’t want to have children and comes to Esther for help expressing this to her husband, who passionately wishes to be a father. But often the stories people come in with are not the ones they take home.
Trauma Doesn’t Like to be TouchedNov 24, 2017 36:49
[Contains mature themes] A newly-married couple comes to Esther for guidance on how to create a space of safety and physical intimacy, while also giving voice to past trauma.
SexlessnessNov 17, 2017 33:58
[Contains mature themes] A couple are first-generation children of immigrants, raised to believe sex should only take place in a marriage. Now that sex isn’t forbidden, it’s deeply uninteresting…to one of them.
Tell Me I'm Not AloneNov 10, 2017 39:52
[Contains mature themes] A young family, a ten-year age difference, and a wife who found independence through an extra-marital relationship. They’ve decided to forgive and rebuild, but the pain of the betrayal remains.
There's You There's Me and There's UsNov 3, 2017 43:32
[Contains mature themes] They have been together for 17 years, best friends and partners who, despite their loving and positive relationship, go months without connecting sexually.
Impotent Is No Way to Define a ManOct 27, 2017 42:15
[Contains Mature themes.] A man has struggled with impotence for over two decades. His wife, in despair over her feelings of hopelessness in the bedroom, seeks relief for her sexual frustration and feelings of resentment.
The AddictOct 20, 2017 38:58
[Contains mature themes] They’re grandparents, with a 40-year love story and a stable, happy marriage. But one of them had quite a few secrets. Esther gives them some tools to navigate and support each other's experiences.
Speak to Me in FrenchOct 9, 2017 38:29
[Contains mature themes] A husband and wife met while deeply committed to the evangelical faith and didn’t kiss until their wedding day; for her, that kiss felt like “kissing her brother.” Esther gets creative in an effort to help them create a new sexual relationship.
Motherless WomenOct 9, 2017 35:20
[Contains mature themes] A couple with two small children are at physical and emotional odds in their relationship. One has given herself over entirely to the children, while the other struggles to find her place within the family dynamic. Esther helps them reframe each of their roles in terms of what they uniquely contribute.
I've Had BetterOct 9, 2017 46:43
[Contains mature themes] He reached out because a year after the discovery of his affair, they aren’t fighting anymore, but they certainly haven’t moved on. Esther guides them towards a more honest conversation, and a revelation about their communication.
PrologueMay 17, 2017 02:17
Step into iconic relationship therapist Esther Perel’s office and listen as 10 anonymous couples in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their story. From infidelity to sexlessness to loss, it’s a space for people to be heard and understood. It’s also a place for us to listen and feel empowered in our own relationships. So…where should we begin?