Susan Stiffelman

Parenting Without Power Struggles

Parenting Without Power Struggles


Susan Stiffelman is a family therapist, parent coach, and one of the country's premiere parenting experts, and the author of Parenting Without Power Struggles and Parenting With Presence (an Eckhart Tolle edition.) Susan's podcasts will feature conversations with guests including Dr. Jane Goodall, Arianna Huffington, Jack Kornfield, Glennon Melton and many other thought leaders.



1:38 The Importance of Play During Isolation with Dr. Lawrence Cohen

Mar 31, 2020 14:06


In this episode, Susan shares a clip from a Playful Parenting Master Class with Dr. Lawrence Cohen. You'll hear a discussion on how to talk with kids about Covid-19 and how to bring connection into interactions with our children to reduce tension and foster genuine cooperation.

1:37 Suddenly Homeschooling with Marilyn Mosley

Mar 24, 2020 21:07


Susan talks with Laurel Springs Distance Learning founder Marilyn Mosley about how to help children and parents adjust and even embrace learning at home. Tips on learning style and various homeschooling approaches, along with helpful resources.

1: 36 Parenting in Isolation: Staying Grounded During Coronavirus

Mar 18, 2020 16:17


Susan shares tips for staying grounded while honoring Coronavirus recommendations of social distancing. You'll enjoy a calming mindfulness moment and hear ways to feel sturdier with kids underfoot.

1:34 Raising Privacy-Savvy Kids with Ari Andersen

Mar 11, 2020 30:08


Susan is joined by her son, Ari Andersen, host of the podcast Everything They Know, to discuss what parents should do to help their kids make informed decisions about data and privacy as they navigate the digital world.

1:34 Talking To Kids About Sex With Amy Lang

Mar 2, 2020 18:16


Susan speaks with Amy Lang of Birds + Bees + Kids about how to talk with kids about sex. The discussion addresses why kids need us to be a source of reliable information, how to establish more comfort in these important conversations, and how to handle kids and online porn.

1:33 A Month Without My Cell Phone

Feb 18, 2020 13:19


In this episode, Susan shares aha moments from leaving her cell phone off for a month, reflecting on how we can help our children develop a healthier balance with technology by leading the way.

1: 32 What Lies Beneath Narcissism With Wendy Behary

Feb 13, 2020 19:14


Susan is joined again by Wendy Behary, author of Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed. Susan and Wendy discuss what truly lies beneath narcissism and how we can use this understanding to manage some of the hurt a narcissist inflicts. Susan and Wendy co-host a monthly support group on Co-Parenting With a Narcissist.

1:31 Bringing Mindfulness Into Family Life with Elisha Goldstein

Feb 5, 2020 25:12


Susan talks with Elisha Goldstein, co-founder of The Center for Mindful Living in Los Angeles, about how mindful families can embrace imperfection, communicate courageously and repair difficult moments with honest communication.

1:29 Janet Lansbury, Maggie Dent, and Susan Stiffelman

Dec 12, 2019 34:40


In this episode, Susan is joined by parent educators Janet Lansbury and Maggie Dent to talk through a wide-range of issues related to addressing misbehavior, strengthening connection, and managing our own parenting insecurities. A special episode filled with lots of insights, tips, and laughter!

1:28 Mindful Teens with Jessica Morey

Dec 4, 2019 21:35


Susan talks with Jessica Morey, founder of Inward Bound Mindfulness Educator), about the impact on teens of mindfulness retreats. You’ll hear insights into what’s going on in the teen brain and how mindfulness and contemplative practice can radically improve focus, resilience, and a positive sense of self.

1:27 Raising Children with Gratitude with Susan Stiffelman

Nov 27, 2019 13:14


Susan shares simple practices that parents can use to help children naturally develop a sense of gratitude and appreciation in their daily lives. An uplifting episode with lots of ideas for cultivating an attitude of gratitude!

1-26 Happy Family Meals with Jeanne-Marie Paynel

Nov 21, 2019 21:51


Susan talks with Jeanne-Marie Paynel, founder of Voila Montessori and parenting mentor, about establishing kid-friendly rituals and routines--including food preparation and cleanup-- to make meals a time of connection, learning, and nourishment.

1:25 Gay and Katie Hendricks: Parenting with Authenticity

Nov 12, 2019 28:27


Susan talks with Drs. Gay and Katie Hendricks, pioneers in the field of conscious loving and body awareness, about raising emotionally intelligent children. This wide-ranging conversation covers how to acknowledge difficult feelings with children, how to recognize our true "Yes" and "No", and the importance of leading with appreciation. 

1:24 Minimizing Power Struggles

Nov 5, 2019 13:51


Even though we may long to avoid tiring arguments and negotiations with our kids, unexamined fears and worries can fan the flames of power struggles. In this episode, Susan talks about how a mother's childhood experiences influence how she engages with her daughter over what to eat for breakfast.

1:23 Katie Hurley: Tools for Raising Healthy Teens

Oct 30, 2019 20:22


Susan talks with Katie Hurley, author of The Depression Workbook for Teens, Tools to Improve Your Mood, Build Self-Esteem, and Stay Motivation. The conversation explores ways that parents can empower their kids to cope effectively with stress, anxiety, and depression. An important conversation for parents of teens and younger children.

1:22 Juditih Orloff: Managing Parenting Overwhelm

Oct 22, 2019 26:02


Susan talks with Judith Orloff, author of The Empath's Survival Guide and Thriving as an Empath, about how parents can handle the overwhelming demands of children. While the suggestions will be helpful to all parents, special attention is paid in this conversation to those who are highly sensitive or who identify as empaths.

1:21 Lenore Skenazy: Free Range Kids

Oct 14, 2019 26:11


Susan talks with Lenore Skenazy, author of Free Range Kids, about how to raise resilient, confident children. You'll hear practical suggestions for cultivating a sense of independence in your kids, and a lively discussion about what it means to be an attentive parent.

1:20 Byron Katie: Loving, Listening, and Connecting

Oct 7, 2019 19:06


Susan speaks with Byron Katie, author of Loving What Is and A Mind at Home With Itself. In their conversation, Katie talks about how her relationship with her children changed after discovering The Work, and shares how self-inquiry can foster deeper connection with our children and teens.

1:19 When kids don’t like school

Oct 1, 2019 15:31


When I was 16, I taught myself to speak Hindi because my desire to learn the language had been awakened. Kids love to learn, when they're interested! Tune in to hear me talk about how to fan the flames of children's passions with Multiple Intelligences, even if they're weary of school and think learning is "dumb."

1:18 Helping Children After Divorce with Christina McGhee

Sep 24, 2019 18:35


Susan talks with Christina McGhee, author of Parenting Apart, about how to address challenges associated with helping a child adjust after divorce. The discussion includes managing transitions, offloading a child's feelings in healthy ways, and ensuring kids don't get overloaded with parents' own difficult emotions.

1:17 Slow Tech Parenting with Janell Burley Hofmann

Sep 17, 2019 20:06


Susan chats with Janell Burley Hofmann, author of iRules: What Every Tech-Healthy Family Needs to Know About Selfies, Sexting, Gaming and Growing Up. Susan and Janell talk about how to incorporate technology into family life in ways that preserve connection and encourage engagement with the real, 3D world. Loaded with tips for using technology without being ruled by it.

1:17 Co-Parenting with a Narcissist with Wendy Behary

Sep 10, 2019 20:35


Susan talks with Wendy Behary, author of Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed. Susan and Wendy discuss challenges associated with co-parenting with someone who has narcissistic tendencies, including an absence of empathy, a sense of entitlement, and a focus on attention and approval--at the cost of addressing children's needs. Susan and Wendy co-host a monthly support group on Co-Parenting With a Narcissist.

1:15 Maggie Dent on Raising Rooster Children

Aug 28, 2019 21:30


Susan talks with Maggie Dent, beloved parent educator from Australia, about raising children who are especially strong-willed and energetic. "Rooster children" can wear out even the best-intentioned parent! You'll get tips for creating calm, getting rest, and managing expectations.

1:16 Susan Kaiser Greenland on Mindful Kids

Aug 23, 2019 25:59


Susan talks with Susan Kaiser Greenland, author of The Mindful Child and Mindful Games shares ways that families can integrate mindfulness into their everyday lives, developing the resilience, presence, and compassion that will help them navigate life's ups and downs.

1:14 Uncooperative Child Hooked on TV with Susan Stiffelman

Aug 21, 2019 15:28


Children are wired to resist coercion, especially when most of our interactions are about making a request or demand. In this episode, I answer a parent's question about how to handle her 12 year old son who accuses her of being grumpy whenever she asks him to turn off the TV to do his chores or homework.

1:13 Dr. William Stixrud on The Self-Driven Child

Aug 14, 2019 26:25


Susan talks with Dr. William Stixrud, author of The Self-Driven Child, about the rise of anxiety and depression in kids who report feeling increasingly controlled and micromanaged by well-meaning parents. Kids need a sense of agency to grow into resilient adults. An important, thought-provoking conversation.

1:12 Mindful Parenting with Myla & Jon Kabat-Zinn

Aug 6, 2019 18:00


Susan talks with Jon Kabat-Zinn, PhD and Myla Kabat-Zinn about the opportunities for mindful presence that come with raising children. Jon is known for his work as a scientist, writer, and meditation teacher engaged in bringing mindfulness into the mainstream of medicine and society. He is the author of many books including Full Catastrophe Living and Wherever You Go, There You Are.  He and his wife Myla are the authors of Everyday Blessings: The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting.

1:11 Julie Lythcott-Haims on Raising an Adult

Jul 30, 2019 18:04


Susan talks with Julie Lythcott-Haims, author of How to Raise an Adult, about raising children who grow into confident, capable, resilient adults. Many parents feel they should do all they can to help their kids get good grades. But are we shortchanging our children when we do?

1:10 Highly Sensitive Children/ Parents

Jul 19, 2019 20:12


High sensitivity is a trait shared by 20% of the population, serving a vital function in the survival of the species. Susan speaks about the joys and challenges of heightened sensitivity with Alane Freund, colleague of Dr. Elaine Aron who wrote The Highly Sensitive Person and The Highly Sensitive Child, in anticipation of a Master Class they will be teaching with Dr. Aron. A fascinating look at the gifts of deep feeling and creativity, as well as the challenges of overstimulation that come with this trait.

1:9 The 4 S's of Attachment with Dr. Dan Siegel

Jul 14, 2019 25:09


Susan talks with psychiatrist Dr. Dan Siegel about attachment, including a discussion about the number one predictor of how children will become attached to a parent. Susan and Dan also talk about the importance of understanding that there is no such thing as perfect parenting--and how to make relationship repairs when we've temporarily lost our way as parents.

1:8 Not Taking Our Children's Behavior Personally

Jul 9, 2019 16:24


It's easy to lose our parenting cool when we think our kids are deliberately pushing our buttons. But what if we could stop taking our child's frustrating behaviors personally? In this episode, family therapist Susan Stiffelman offers a different way of looking at difficult behaviors that will make it easier to stay calm through those parenting storms.

1:7 Raising Differently Wired Kids with Debbie Reber

Jul 2, 2019 20:31


As parents, it's easy to make our children's needs front and center, forgetting that we also need support. Susan talks with Debbie Reber from Tilt Parenting about the importance of finding our tribe, and knowing we can lean on others when we're overwhelmed or just having a hard day.

1:6 Dr. Kristin Neff on Self-Compassion

Jun 25, 2019 24:15


Susan talks with Dr. Kristin Neff, author of Self-Compassion about the importance of treating ourselves with kindness and care. You'll learn how to soothe yourself when you're overwhelmed and how to manage those mean voices in your head that fuel shame and regret. A powerful interview that will help you move through the world a little gentler with yourself.


1:5 Your Child's Brain with Dr. Michael Gurian

Jun 18, 2019 22:31


Susan talks with Dr. Michael Gurian about brain development, differences in male/ female brains, and many more fascinating insights about some of the elements that contribute to our children's behavior.

1:2 Being the calm, confident Captain of the ship

Jun 9, 2019 15:23


Parenting expert and family therapist Susan Stiffelman talks about the three ways we can relate to our children: as the calm Captain of the ship, the negotiating Lawyer, or the overpowering Dictator.

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1:1 The Gift of a Support Parent with Dr. Jane Goodall

Jun 9, 2019 17:56


Dr. Jane Goodall speaks with Susan about how her mother nurtured her dreams, even when they seemed impossible. You'll hear Susan share some of her takeaways from this conversation, as well as talk about how parents can help their children discover their unique passions.

1:4 Trudy and Jack Kornfield on "Live-in Gurus"

Jun 9, 2019 18:30


Susan shares excerpts from her Parenting in the Digital Age summit conversation with Trudy Goodman and Jack Kornfield as they talk about the many ways our children can inspire us to grow in presence, compassion, and love. Susan then shares a story about an exhausted mom who came for counseling when she was at the end of her rope.

1:3 Glennon Doyle on helping children through sadness, loss, and disappointment

Jun 9, 2019 18:29


Glennon Doyle joins Susan in conversation about helping children through sorrow, loss and grief. Although our instinct is to cheer our kids up when they're sad, you'll hear why it's important to help them feel their feelings--even the difficult ones.

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1:0 Brief intro to Parenting Without Power Struggles Podcast

May 13, 2019 03:42


This podcast is for parents who want to have more fun, greater connection and fewer power struggles with their children and teens.

I’ll be sharing parenting tips, strategies, and insights from my forty-plus year career as a teacher and family therapist.

Guests will include Jane Goodall, Glennon Doyle, Byron Katie, Dan Siegel, Gretchen Rubin, Jack Kornfield, and many others.

We'll address everything from meltdowns and tantrums to screen time and learning differences in children and teens.

I’ll share guidance from my books--Parenting Without Power Struggles and Parenting With Presence, answer questions, and coach parents on some of the challenges we all deal with every day!