BeatYourGenes

Beat Your Genes: An Evolutionary Psychology Podcast for Finding Happiness in the modern world

What's the purpose of life? How do we find happiness? What is happiness? We discuss real life situations to find what we need to do to find happiness. To
Beat Your Genes:  An Evolutionary Psychology Podcast for Finding Happiness in the modern world

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What's the purpose of life? How do we find happiness? What is happiness? We discuss real life situations to find what we need to do to find happiness. To do this, we have to sometimes go against our instincts. This is called "beating your genes". Listen as I, Nate G, your host, talks with Dr. Doug LIsle, evolutionary psychologist, about life, love, relationships, and most importantly finding happiness in the modern world. We are live on Wednesdays at 8:30-9:30pm PST. If you have a question or comment, or maybe even a complicated situation that you'd like some advice on, feel free to call us live at 657-383-0751 or email us at BeatYourGenes@gmail.com .

Link: www.blogtalkradio.com/beatyourgenes

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Health

Episodes

156: Keeping attention in class, When authority is altruistic, autism, war

Feb 14, 2019 00:55:00

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Keeping attention in class, When authority is altruistic, autism, war

155: Dilated eyes, Friendships, Romantic excitement, Live caller

Feb 7, 2019 01:00:00

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 Dilated eyes, Friendships, Romantic excitement, Live caller

154: Female ambition psychology, Messy roommate, roots of privacy

Jan 31, 2019 00:50:00

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Female ambition psychology, Messy  roommate,  roots of privacy

153: Falling out of love, Cultural shifts, Faced w food temptations

Jan 24, 2019 00:44:00

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 Falling out of love, Cultural shifts, Faced w food temptations

152: Anger in relationships, Falling in love w a monk, Food cravings

Jan 17, 2019 00:52:00

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Anger in relationships, Falling in love w a monk, Food cravings

151: 10 paid dates from a man's perspective, Open-loops from casual flings

Jan 10, 2019 00:50:00

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10 paid dates from a man's perspective,  Open-loops from casual flings

150: How to deal with a micro-managing boss - an on-air session (replay)

Jan 3, 2019 00:40:00

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How to deal with a micro-managing boss - an on-air session

149: Shy vs bold men, Getting away from a narcissist, Is there a utopia?

Dec 27, 2018 00:58:00

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Shy vs bold men, Getting away from a narcissist, Is there a utopia?

148: Forgiving and letting go, Lonely older single women, Shy vs bold men

Dec 20, 2018 00:55:00

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Forgiving and letting go,  Lonely older single women, Shy vs bold men

147: Effects of long-term marijuana, Spousal abuse, can severe OCD be beaten?

Dec 13, 2018 00:52:00

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 Effects of long-term marijuana, Spousal abuse, can severe OCD be beaten?

146: Binging on broccoli, Do we want what we can't have? Live caller

Dec 6, 2018 01:06:00

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Binging on broccoli, Do we want what we can't have?  Live caller

145: Eating healthy while socializing, during the holidays, live caller

Nov 29, 2018 01:10:00

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Eating healthy while socializing, during the holidays, live caller

144: Gaining your edge in life (replay)

Nov 22, 2018 00:50:00

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Gaining your edge in life (replay during the holiday)

143: Restriction/binges? Healthy mom pushing health on family, 2 callers

Nov 15, 2018 00:55:00

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Restriction leads to binges? Healthy mom wants her family to eat healthy.  2 callers: Girlfriend has a question about her boyfriend.  Parent asks about child's grades and about genetic determinism. 

142: Why do boys pick on girls, giving gifts, people you dislike

Nov 8, 2018 00:59:00

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 Why do boys pick on girls, giving gifts, people you dislike

141: Facial cues, Guess the personality, non-food potential pleasure traps

Nov 1, 2018 00:52:00

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Facial cues, Guess the personality,  non-food potential pleasure traps

140: Anorexia, Paternity testing, Selecting for pair bonds on a dating profile

Oct 25, 2018 00:47:00

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Anorexia, Paternity testing, Selecting for pair bonds on a dating profile

139: Radical Honesty, Genes vs Environment, Reconnecting w an old friend

Oct 18, 2018 00:59:00

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Radical Honesty, Genes vs Environment, Reconnecting w an old friend

138: Older vs younger generations, applying Evo Psych, genes vs environment

Oct 11, 2018 01:05:00

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1. Why do many older people complain of younger people "ruining" the world. Is this contempt built into us as we age?  2. Evo Psych makes sense, but how should a therapist apply this knowledge to a client/patient? 3. If I'm born a disagreeable jerk, can I beat my genes in a simliar way that a person with genes for heart disease/cancer can beat their genes? 

137: The Psychology of Humor (replay)

Oct 4, 2018 00:56:00

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The Psychology of Humor (replay)

136: Why we feel unhappy sometimes, The meaning of life, What is intuition?

Sep 27, 2018 01:03:00

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 Why we feel unhappy sometimes, What is the meaning of life, What is intuition?

135: Finding the source of depression - an on-air session

Sep 20, 2018 01:10:00

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In today's episode, Amy calls into the show because she feels depressed. Dr. Lisle talks to her during an on-air session as they try to figure out the source of her mysterious depression and what to do about it.   

134: Nostalgia, Studying for MCAT, Getting asked health questions

Sep 13, 2018 00:50:00

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Does bad weather trigger feelings of nostalgia which in turn results in more feelings of optimism and higher self-esteem?   A listener is stuck trying to study for the MCAT but caught in the ego trap.   Dr. Lisle's "seem strategy" works to get others to stop challenging us about our healthy diet but what can we do if we want to show off our knowledge? 

133: Empathy, Brains vs. Beauty:Trade-off? Male confused on a date

Sep 6, 2018 01:01:00

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Empathy, Brains vs. Beauty:Trade-off? Male confused on a date

132: Being productive, Escaping the ego trap

Aug 30, 2018 00:49:00

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Being productive, Escaping the ego trap

131: Health questions. What to say when friend asks if she's overweight? Are there cultural shifts

Aug 23, 2018 00:52:00

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Health questions.  What to say when friend asks if she's overweight? Are there cultural shifts?

130: Internal audience judgment, anorexia, why do people interrupt each other?

Aug 16, 2018 01:00:00

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 Internal audience judgment, anorexia, why do people interrupt each other? 

129: Cheapskates, Hoarders, Energy vampires, Marriage trouble

Aug 9, 2018 00:54:00

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Cheapskates, Hoarders, Energy vampires,  Marriage trouble

128: 6 "Romantic" Gestures That Are MAJOR Red Flags

Aug 2, 2018 00:59:00

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We review some Romantic Gestures that are MAJOR Red Flags in dating.      

127: Do men judge more than looks, keeping peace in the family, pop psychology

Jul 26, 2018 00:55:00

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Do men judge more than looks, keeping peace in the family, pop psychology

126: Delaying sex? Does a woman's self-esteem increase with age?

Jul 19, 2018 00:51:00

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Today on the podcast a few questions from listeners will include a questions from a man trying to understand why Dr. Lisle recommends that women delay sex a bit.  Another question asks whether women get more confident as they get older despite aging and perhaps feeling less attractive.  And finally, an older listener has a crush on a much younger man in her life, what will Dr. Lisle say?

125:Committing to goals, displaying confidence, soulmates

Jul 12, 2018 00:57:00

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Committing to goals, displaying confidence, soulmates, why do guys push sex? 1. I'm 42 overweight would like to be married and would still like to have kids though I'm running out of time. I know exactly what I need to do to lose weight so I can feel better about myself and attract a mate but I just won't commit to doing it. Why? Are these things actually not important to me even though I think they are? 2. Setting New Year's resolutions seems to be a universal phenomenon. Is there an evolutionary basis for this (i.e. periodically reflecting on your recent history and determining what to improve)? 3. I'm quite shy, trip over my tongue in social situations, blush easily, and my eyes often automatically dart away when they meet the eyes of others. All of these feel really self-defeating in the modern world. Do all of these have the same source and can I improve, with practice or otherwise? 4. Is it common for a reasonably smart  independent woman to stay in an unloving marriage of over 30 years ? Is being provided for enough of  a trade off  for lack of mutual respect , fun and great physical relationship too or ARE SOULMATES JUST A FANTASY? THE QUESTION....... If a woman decides to stay in that unloving relationship , what are some ways to stay out of the pleasure trap??   Register for Pleasure Trap Webinar with Dr. Doug Lisle and Dr. Alan Goldhamer https://events.genndi.com/register/169105139238437069/db40db1837

124: Stress in the modern world vs. stone-age

Jul 5, 2018 01:02:00

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Stress in the modern world vs. stone-age

123: Placebo effect, Stockholm syndrome, Listener's son having mental breakdown

Jun 28, 2018 00:55:00

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Placebo effect, Stockholm syndrome, Listener's son having mental breakdown

122: Aren't humans omnivores? Stanford Experiment, Placebo effect, Stockholm

Jun 21, 2018 01:00:00

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Aren't humans omnivores?  The evo psych of human diet.  Stanford Experiment, Placebo effect, Stockholm syndrome. Stanford Prison Experiment: " The Lifespan of a Lie" https://medium.com/s/trustissues/the-lifespan-of-a-lie-d869212b1f62

121: Dating after appearance change, Disagreeable Doug, Flooding the Circuits, Managing anger

Jun 14, 2018 00:56:00

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A very unique dating question from a listener who has gotten healthier.  Under what circumstances does Dr. Lisle turn disagreeable? Flooding the Circuits - tips, tricks, technique Managing anger & passion

120: A novel approach to cravings for junk, Personality differences & dislikes

Jun 7, 2018 00:51:00

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Dr. Lisle discusses a novel approach to cravings.  Are we prone to dislike certain people with personality traits opposite from ours?  Do we select friends subconsciously based on status like we do with mates?  

119: How does our personality change? With circumstance? With age?

May 31, 2018 00:57:00

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How does our personality change? With circumstance? With age?

118: Hamilton's Rule, Altruism, Kin selection

May 24, 2018 00:57:00

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Hamilton's Rule, Altruism, Kin selection

117: Cost/benefit of displays, directing esteem cues, evo psych of economics, internet trolls, and

May 17, 2018 00:55:00

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Q1:  What makes certain people do more for others than they would for themselves? Q2: What's the scoop on altruism? Q3: What's wrong with socialism? Q4: Why do internet trolls say mean/harsh thing online? One caller has a question about her special needs son.  Second caller has a question about identity politics in 2018.     

116: Beauty standards for women, Prostitution, and Emotional Intelligence

May 10, 2018 00:53:00

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An instagram model recently stopped shaving her armpits and wearing makeup as a sort of protest against the "societal programming" of beauty standards.  What does Dr. Lisle think about this?  What's the Doug Download on Prostitution?  Is emotional intelligence a thing?  

115: Depression, Psychedelics

May 3, 2018 01:00:00

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 Depression, Psychedelics

114: Evo Psych in academia, advertising, music

Apr 26, 2018 00:59:00

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Evo Psych in academia, advertising, music, and leadership

113: Fear of commitment, Live callers, Evo Psych in academia, advertising, music

Apr 19, 2018 00:49:00

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Caller questions are about "Fear of commitment, Evo Psych in academia, advertising, and why do we  love music? Live caller asks about video game addiction in young men.   Another live caller asks about his pinball teammates' differing views on children.  

112: Intervention overconfidence, Caller question, Alcoholism, Evo Psych in academia, advertising,

Apr 12, 2018 01:01:00

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Questions today: 1) Listener has a friend who is an alcoholic.  What can be done as a friend?  2) Why can some people drink heavily and not become addicted to alcohol? 3) Is it worth being an evolutionary psychologist in academia? 4) How does advertising & media influence people? 5) Why do people love music?

111: Evolution of language, Emotional first-aid, helping a friend

Apr 5, 2018 01:04:00

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Evolution of language, Emotional first-aid, helping a friend

110:Co-dependency, child attachment styles, advice on losing a child

Mar 29, 2018 00:56:00

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Questions for this show are: 1. Strategies for "healing" from an abusive relationship.  Do spouses that escape a narcissist spouse need therapy and support on codependency? 2. Are children’s attachment styles bogus in predicting their personalities? Also, what’s the earliest age at which you can see a person’s personality characteristics? 3.What advice would you give to a parent who’s lost a child (say 18 years old) under tragic circumstances, such as suicide? Are there any useful techniques or ways of thinking to really help ease the pain of such a profound biological loss?

109: What can our behavior signal to a romantic partner?

Mar 22, 2018 00:36:00

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Questions for tonight are as follows: A listener's husband spends money on certain displays but not others - what does it mean? How does a 10-year married couple navigate being swingers when one of them no longer wants to do it?  Why do some men feel guilty or nervous about Valentine's Day? Why do romantic partners act surprised when their spouse/partner leaves despite threatening to do so for a long time? Why does it feel so devastating when a spouse cheats?

108: Punishing children, advice to psychology students, cynical from evo psych..

Mar 15, 2018 00:49:00

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Questions today are about: Influencing children - how does punishment work? Advice to psychology students who want to learn evo psych in a school that teaches conventional psychology Phobias like snakes, heights, etc.. are briefly explored Brief question regarding Big Five personality and how/if those traits can change as we age and gain status. Sharing evolutionary psychology knowledge in social settings. Getting cynical from evolutionary psychology - accepting the tragic view of existence.  

107: Bullying, Job satisfaction, Changing careers

Mar 8, 2018 01:01:00

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Listener questions today are: 1.  Pediatrician has overweight child patients that get picked on at school.  Asking for advice on what to tell them.  2. Job satisfaction - should people select their job based on their own IQ, conscientiousness, and stability?   3.  Stay-at-home mom has finished raising her kids and now wants to do something that makes her feel productive.  Her family, on the gravy train because of all that she does for them is giving her push back.  She's a little stuck between starting personal projects & disrupting the family balance.  We have two callers:  Alan - who asks about Dr. Lisle's thought process for diagnosing a problem. And the next caller, Rob, asking about how humans react differently to significant events vs. everyday events that are similar.     

106: Dreams, Meditation, Listener calls in

Mar 1, 2018 00:56:00

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Dreams, Meditation, Listener calls in about a childhood question

105: Personality traits of 'alpha' males, advice to women dating 'alpha' males

Feb 22, 2018 00:58:00

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A news article sprinkles in evolutionary psychology when explaining why people are purchasing certain electronics.  We will review the alpha/beta male dynamics, discuss the typical personality traits of alpha males, and shed some light on what women should consider when dating the 'alpha' male.  We also have a listener who calls in asking for advice about a family conflict.

104:Helping mom out, Closing an open-loop

Feb 15, 2018 01:05:00

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Helping mom out, Closing an open-loop

103: Family conflict turns into 8 years of unresolved rumination

Feb 8, 2018 01:04:00

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We start the show with an update from a listener who took Dr. Lisle's advice last year.    We had a caller on hold looking to discuss her open-loop - Our caller had a falling out with her family 8 years ago, then her father passed away of cancer, she has now been estranged from them for years and is looking to get clarity on the situation.

102: Relationships, Time in Womb, Free Will, Evo Psych of Bad Teeth

Feb 1, 2018 00:57:00

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Relationships, Time in Womb, Free Will, Evo Psych of Bad Teeth

101: Neoteny, Why do women stay w men who don't love them, Asexuality

Jan 25, 2018 00:53:00

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Neoteny, Why do women stay w men who don't love them, Asexuality

100: Special Episode: Getting Personal with Dr. Doug Lisle

Jan 18, 2018 01:07:00

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Getting Personal with Dr. Doug Lisle

99: Socializing as an Introvert, Finding happiness triggers, Kid is flunking, Appeal to nature fall

Jan 11, 2018 01:03:00

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Socializing as an Introvert, Finding happiness triggers, Kid is flunking, Appeal to nature fallacy

99: Introvert socializing, happiness triggers, Kid is flunking, Nature fallacy

Jan 11, 2018 01:07:00

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Socializing as an Introvert, Finding happiness triggers, Kid is flunking, Appeal to nature fallacy

98: Evolutionary psychology in 2018

Jan 4, 2018 00:49:00

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Evolutionary psychology in 2018

97: On-air session - Daughter is having health problems, what do we do?

Dec 28, 2017 00:34:00

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97: On-air session - Daughter is having health problems, what do we do? 

96: 10 paid dates-what now?, Parenting with societal expectations, the future of races

Dec 21, 2017 00:52:00

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10 paid dates-what now?, Parenting with societal expectations,  the future of races

96: 10 paid dates-what now? Societal expectations of parents, future of race

Dec 21, 2017 00:57:00

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10 paid dates-what now?, Parenting with societal expectations,  the future of races

95: OCD, Jealousy, Over-working, and advice for a naturopath

Dec 14, 2017 01:02:00

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 OCD, Jealousy, Over-working, and advice for a naturopath

94: Dating on a diet, Painful memories, jealousy, working long hours

Dec 7, 2017 01:00:00

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Continuing on with the questions from last week's show.   5. Is orthorexia real?  Does it apply to an actually health-promoting diet & lifestyle? 6. Dating while on a diet: How to bring it up without scaring your date away 7.  Painful memories: Why do they replay?  Why do they come up? 8. Do women naturally attempt to dominate men in long term relationships? 9. Jealousy 10. How much abuse can our bodies take from working long hours all our lives?

93: Relocating, Sexual Harassment current events, Dating on a diet, and more...

Nov 30, 2017 01:06:00

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Tonight's questions will be: 1. Follow up question for what the future will look like 2.  What to consider when relocating your life:  Near family, low cost of living, wild experiences, etc.. 3.  Sexual harassment allegations in the current news 4. Anxiety about transitioning to a healthy diet 5. Is orthorexia real?  Does it apply to an actually health-promoting diet & lifestyle? 6. Dating while on a diet: How to bring it up without scaring your date away 7.  Painful memories: Why do they replay?  Why do they come up? 8. Do women naturally attempt to dominate men in long term relationships? 9. Jealousy 10. How much abuse can our bodies take from working long hours all our lives?  

92: What will the future look like?

Nov 16, 2017 00:59:00

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What will the future look like?    

91: Live callers

Nov 9, 2017 00:49:00

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We take a couple live callers  

90: Saying sorry, Borderline personality, Multiple personality disorder, politics

Nov 2, 2017 00:59:00

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Saying sorry, Borderline personality, multiple personality, politics

90: Saying sorry, Borderline personality, Multiple personality, politics

Nov 2, 2017 01:04:00

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Saying sorry, Borderline personality, multiple personality, politics

89: Ex-husband & father of my kids is a sociopath. On-air session

Oct 26, 2017 00:54:00

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Ex-husband & father of my kids is a sociopath. On-air session

88: Quitting vices: One by one or altogether? Helping your SO with their vices

Oct 19, 2017 00:53:00

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Topics: Quitting vices one by one or altogether?  Helping your SO with their vices Why are students so stressed? Tips to deal with this. Standing up for yourself if you're highly agreeabl  

87: Psych of Halloween costumes, talking to yourself, modern technology

Oct 12, 2017 00:51:00

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87: Psych of Halloween costumes, talking to yourself, modern technology

86: What is a middle-of-the-bell-curve person like, braces, alcohol addiction and many more

Oct 5, 2017 01:03:00

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What is a middle-of-the-bell-curve person like? and more listener questions

86: What is a middle-of-the-bell-curve person like, braces, alcohol addiction .

Oct 5, 2017 01:08:00

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What is a middle-of-the-bell-curve person like? and more listener questions

85:Is online dating worth it, qualifying for your spouse..

Sep 28, 2017 00:55:00

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Is online dating worth it, qualifying for your spouse.. Article on online dating:  https://www.nytimes.com/2015/06/30/science/for-couples-time-can-upend-the-laws-of-attraction.html

84: Building a community, Getting over an ex's past, non-sexual fetishes, & more

Sep 21, 2017 00:56:00

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Building a community, Getting over an ex's past, non-sexual fetishes, & more

83: Q &A

Sep 14, 2017 00:50:00

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Ep 83

82: Overcoming height/weight/financial differences while dating

Sep 7, 2017 00:45:00

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Overcoming height/weight differences while dating

81: Questions for Dr. Lisle

Aug 31, 2017 00:56:00

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episode 81

80: On-Air Session w Listener & Dr Lisle

Aug 24, 2017 00:59:00

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On Air Session w Listener & Dr Lisle

79: Doing good in the world, Overbearing parents, Does sibling birth order matter, facing death

Aug 17, 2017 01:05:00

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Overbearing parents, Does sibling birth order matter, facing death

79: Doing good, Overbearing parents, Does birth order matter, facing death

Aug 17, 2017 01:10:00

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Overbearing parents, Does sibling birth order matter, facing death

78: Google's memo controversy

Aug 10, 2017 01:04:00

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A google engineer wrote a memo explaining biological differences between men and women.  

77: Child prodigies, Cat-fishing, Being born w a deformity

Aug 3, 2017 01:03:00

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Child prodigies, Cat-fishing, Being born w  a deformity

76: Dating mind-games, Binge-eating

Jul 27, 2017 01:15:00

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Some fun listener questions 

75: Helping friends/family, self-confidence vs. self-esteem

Jul 20, 2017 00:57:00

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More emails from listener

74: Millenials

Jul 13, 2017 00:54:00

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Millenials

73: Parenting styles, Millenials, Bringing back purpose

Jul 6, 2017 00:53:00

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We go over a few questions from listeners emails.

72: Confidence, Intolerance, finding your purpose

Jun 29, 2017 00:51:00

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We'll go over an interesting study, some listener emails/questions. 

71: Hard-wired: Nature vs. Nurture

Jun 22, 2017 01:00:00

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Tonight's episode:  - Two recent studies  - Listener emails - A very funny caller with a great question

70: Finding your identity - an on-air session w Dr. Lisle and a listener

Jun 15, 2017 00:50:00

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Dr. Lisle talks with a listener during an on-air session about life direction, identity, and finding happiness. 

69: Animal haters, Porn in LTR, Being a nicer person, Decision fatigue & Netflix

Jun 8, 2017 01:01:00

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1.  If evolutionary psychology considers parental investment theory and the investment in kin as essential why do so many people in the West keep animals.  2.  I used to get really upset when my partner watched . I have relaxed and now feel like it's not the worst thing he can do and will not end my relationship so I shouldn't get upset. What do you think? 3.  Can a person's placing on the agreeability continuum be situational? I believe I am more or less disagreeable depending on the dynamics of different relationships. Is there anything a disagreeable person like me can do to Beat My Genes and become a nicer person. 4.  Previously, you've mentioned the thing that matters for a woman's pair bond value is her physical attractiveness, and that the female is objectively 1 rating more attractive than the male, who comes with resources. I know a few couples where the male is significantly more attractive than the female, and in which the female has greater resources to offer than the male. This sort of pair bonding relationship should not happen according to you. What's going on here?  5. What can people do to defeat decision fatigue and overcome the allure of Netflix? I have a project that I've been slowly working on, but after work I'm too tired to work on it, and on weekends I'm so overwhelmed by decision fatigue about whether to do more pressing errands (cooking, creating a budget, shopping, etc) or devote time to my project that I end up neglecting everything. 6.  You explained male homosexuality from an evolutionary psychology perspective, but what about female homosexuality? 7.  Other than being the best renditions of our respective selves, what can one do to build up their perceived status in the village?

68: Explaining enablers, dating with psychiatric disorders, and having grit

Jun 1, 2017 00:58:00

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Listener questions: 1.  How does evolutionary psychology explain a person who is an "enabler"? What am I getting out of it, why am I doing it and why do I feel so responsible for his happiness - to the extent that it harms us both? 2. Dr. Lisle talks often about the 'cost/benefit analysis' of human behavior. Is this a defined algorithm (i.e., are the factors & coeffcients/weighting factors) & what are these factors/coefficients? Do these factors/coefficients change over time & under different conditions? 3. So... I recently read an article published in JAMA Psychiatry (april 2016), named "Patterns of Nonrandom Mating Within and Across 11 Major Psychiatric Disorders"  It basically points out that people with a given disorder has a very higher chance of mating with someone with THAT particular disorder than other people do, as well as a higher chance of mating with someone with any other disorder rather than mating with healthy people. Also, each disorder has its own preferences. What do you think is happening? Are people with mental illness for some reason biased to choosing mates with mental illness? If so, why? 4.  I'm almost at the end of a three year accredited psychology degree in Australia. My question is, why is there a complete absence of evolutionary psychology in the curriculum here?  5. I'm intelligent and have a lot of intellectual and life ambitions, but I'm also somewhat lazy and not particularly "gritty." I have a history that goes back to childhood of starting big and ambitious life projects and then abandoning them the instant things get a bit tough. I'd love to hear some advice grounded in evolutionary psychology on how I should be going about to tackle this      

67: About Dr. Lisle Part 2, Myths of Moderation when making health changes

May 25, 2017 00:52:00

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Part 2 of Dr. Lisle's interview on Andrew Taylor's Spud Fit podcast.  He disusses the Myths of Moderation along with the Ego Trap with regards to making healthy lifestyle changes. 

66: About Dr. Doug Lisle

May 18, 2017 00:46:00

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We'll get to know a little more about how Dr. Lisle became a psychologist and how he learned about evolutionary psychology.  This is Part 1 of a two-part interview.  Stay tuned next week for part 2. 

65: Finding your edge in life

May 11, 2017 00:49:00

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I'll read a follow-up email with one of our listeners. And some fun questions from our listeners this week as well.  We will try to get to as many as possible.

64: Dealing with a Micromanager - An On-Air session with Dr. Lisle

May 4, 2017 00:39:00

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Our caller just got a new job and his new supervisor insists on micromanaging everything he does.  

63: Marital jealousy, Distancing yourself, Self-limiting beliefs,and more...

Apr 27, 2017 00:45:00

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Question we will try to get to: 1. Is the concept of self limiting beliefs the same as ego traps in evo psych? Why do these occur? 2.  My boyfriend and I are very nice people (very agreeable). Frustrating and funny at the same time. We have a problem figuring out what we want, since our first reaction is to please other people. But because we are not alone in the world, what happens a lot is that our decisions are made by others... We decided to try to have a baby. There is simply so much written and said on how to raise a child and even what’s best for pregnant women. I’m panicking even just by looking down this hole. Since we are both highly conscientious  as well, I’m afraid of falling into “read everything, talk to everyone, worry about advice that don’t go well together and try to find the perfect solution”.  Your last  shows sort of comforted me. If almost everything is in the genes, then I don’t have to worry as much about bringing up a small child. So my two questions would be: Do you have any special advice for the first time parents?  Do you have any sort of suggestions for dealing with relatives, friends, acquaintances for two agreeable parents like us? 3. How does Evo Psych examine dictators, group compliance & control, etc. through an evolutionary lens? Figures like Stalin, Hitler, Jim Jones, Chares Manson come to mind to name a few. Also, how would something like the door-in-the-face technique be explained through Ev. Psych?  4. In my circle of friends and family, it seems to me that those who identify as “Dog” people are skewed on the disagreeable side of the bell curve. While “Cat” people, are heavily skewed on the agreeable side of the curve. Is there any truth to this Cat/Dog person comparison, or is it a gross generalization?      

62: Making it to Date #2, Political Correctness, Self-Limiting Beliefs

Apr 20, 2017 00:55:00

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Listener questions we will try to get to for today: 1. For a successful first date, Dr. Lisle said the goal is to not get ruled out.  I'm using online dating and it seems like every time that I've met a girl that meets my standards physically, we'll have a pretty good first date, but then when I try to set up another date I usually hear from them that they didn't feel a connection.  Based on what you guys talk about in your podcast it leads me to believe that what they're saying is an inoffensive way of saying I wasn't physically attractive enough myself.  But I remember Dr. Lisle mentioning in his advice for guys that we want to take advantage of the repeat exposure effect.  How do I take advantage of this effect when I'm consistently told there's no connection from the woman after we've only gone out on one date.  And as a side question, has online dating ruined the repeat exposure effect since people feel obligated to judge others for romantic potential very quickly. 2.  Why does so much anger exist from groups like Black Lives Matter? What is the evolutionary psychology foundation for political correctness & why is it so pervasive? Why is it so difficult for people to accept political in-correctness without feeling angry or insulted? Is there a way to make someone less sensitive to political in-correctness? 3.  What are men and women trying to signal with tattoos?  What are women trying to signal by getting tattoos in non conspicuous locations, for example hidden behind the ear, or on the ankle. 4. Is the concept of self limiting beliefs the same as ego traps in evolutionary psychology? Why do these occur? 5. In his session with Olivia, Dr. Lisle alluded to the next phase dealing with disagreeable personalities, but he didn't get into the meat of it. I need the meat. Any chance you could expound?

61: Marxism, Affairs, Video Games, Tattoo signaling

Apr 13, 2017 00:52:00

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Marxism, Affairs, Video Games, Tattoo signaling

60: What if your mate rival drives a Porsche, Succeeding at job interviews

Apr 6, 2017 01:03:00

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 What if your mate rival drives a Porsche, Succeeding at job interviews

59: How different do we act when we're being watched?

Mar 30, 2017 00:55:00

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How different do we act when we're being watched? 

58: Mate-choice copying, The Milgram Experiment, Trans athletes, Darwin Awards

Mar 23, 2017 01:02:00

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-Do men appear more desirable when seen with attractive women? What does the science say?   -Stanley Milgram's famous study demonstrated people's capacity for obedience to an authority figure in the name of the common good. Recently, Milgram's work was replicated.  The results may surprise you. -One transgender athlete has made it to the spotlight in competitive lifting.  Listen to what happened.  -In honor of Darwin, we present a Darwin Award whereby someone unwittingly takes themselves out of the gene pool in an unbelievably silly manner.  Runner-up award may be given to those who only injured themselves. 

57: Listener emails, questions

Mar 16, 2017 00:57:00

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57: Listener emails

56: How to deal with flaky/lazy children & flaky friends

Mar 9, 2017 00:57:00

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How to deal with flakes part 2

55: Discussion about vicious cycles, listener emails, callers welcome

Mar 2, 2017 01:07:00

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Vicious cycles, listener questions

54: Repairing a strained relationship: On-air session with Olivia & Dr. Lisle

Feb 23, 2017 00:58:00

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Olivia is having some trouble at home so she calls in and has a session with Dr. Lisle.   

53: Flakes, gays, and cougars

Feb 16, 2017 01:01:00

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A conversation with Dr. Lisle about flakes.  We take a caller with a few excellent questions. 

52: Listener questions, emails, and comments

Feb 9, 2017 01:00:00

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We'll read some emails from listeners and do our best to answer the questions

51: How to feel good, how to succceed at life improvement

Feb 2, 2017 00:59:00

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How to feel good, how to succceed at life improvement

50: What's your personality?

Jan 26, 2017 00:57:00

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We will review how to assess your own personality characteristics by going over the BF-10/Ten Item PersonalityIndex survey.  You can download it here:  http://gosling.psy.utexas.edu/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/tipi.pdf

49:Overthinking, Reading ppl, family embarrasment, & what to do if you're 'ugly'

Jan 12, 2017 00:57:00

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49: Listener questions & comments

48: What's the point of psychotherapy, how to influence others

Jan 5, 2017 01:08:00

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What's the point of psychotherapy?

47: Free will, Basis of EvoPsych, Positive/Negative Reinforcement

Dec 29, 2016 00:48:00

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We discuss free will, take a call from a behavioral therapist asking about the scientific validity of evolutionary psychology, and Dr. Lisle explains the flawed thinking of positive & negative reinforcement. 

46: Listener emails & questions

Dec 22, 2016 01:00:00

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Episode 46:  Listener emails & questions

45: Willpower & Change Part 2

Dec 15, 2016 01:04:00

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Understanding willpower and change part 2.  A follow up from last week.

44: Willpower and Change

Dec 8, 2016 01:03:00

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Willpower & Change, an evolutionary psychology take.

43: Inside the Criminal Mind

Dec 1, 2016 00:57:00

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Dr. Lisle shares his experiences as a forensic psychologist for the criminal justice system in Dallas, Texas.  We will go inside the psychology of a criminal mind with some insights & stories. 

42: Listener questions, comments, and emails. Callers welcome!

Nov 24, 2016 01:00:00

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 Listener questions, comments, and emails. Callers welcome!

41: Why is academia so left wing?

Nov 17, 2016 00:48:00

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Why is academia so liberal/left-wing?

40: Sexual Abuse/Trauma

Nov 10, 2016 00:54:00

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Psychology of sexual abuse/trauma.  How to deal with it. 

39: Procrastination

Nov 3, 2016 00:58:00

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Understanding procrastination.

38: More listener questions/comments

Oct 27, 2016 01:08:00

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Lots of emails and questions from our last few shows so I'll be reading the emails on air and Dr. Lisle will be answering your questions. 

37: Election 2016- Psychology of Trump, Clinton and the rest of politics

Oct 20, 2016 01:08:00

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The USA Presidential Election has been unbelievable.  We will be discussing the psychology of Trump, Clinton and how an evolutionary psychologist, Dr. Doug Lisle, PhD, would view this election and its many politics.  

36: Dealing with Grief, Loss, and Sadness

Oct 13, 2016 00:52:00

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We'll talk about dealing with grief, loss, and sadness

35: Keys to a Successful First Date (for Women)

Oct 6, 2016 01:01:00

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This week is for women. Last week was for men. 

34: Keys to a successful 1st date (for Men)

Sep 29, 2016 01:02:00

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This week is for men.  Next week is for women.

33: Stress Management

Sep 22, 2016 01:02:00

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How do we manage stress?

32: Listener emails & questions

Sep 15, 2016 00:49:00

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We'll read & answer listener emails & questions.

31: Psychology of Humor

Sep 8, 2016 00:49:00

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We'll talk about the psychology behind humor. 

30: Listener questions

Sep 1, 2016 01:04:00

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Email any questions to BeatYourGenes@gmail.com or call in 657-383-0751    Some of the questions we'll go over... From listeners: 1) Why do we see a huge discrepancy between societies empathy towards human needs until it comes to sexual satisfaction. We use tax money to fund basic needs of all kinds but if you're a sexual loser you're basically on your own in every way shape and form. Aren't outcast losers in the sexual realm more likely to become radical, rebellious, dangerous to the group? Are there any "stone age" examples of us quelling these dangers and are there any modern examples? 2) Western men seem to be overwhelmed because they are seeing the women they want drenched in sexual attention and it is petrifying them, often at an early age. Age difference is key here because guys in middle to late teens are just starting to figure out their place in the world, but teen girls the moment they hit legal status can be launched all the way into status and they aren't often keen to hide it. Western society is at a place where hypergamy is broadcasted due to marketing patterns which have always taken advantage of sex while young men are unable to ignore their peers being rocketed into the sexual marketing realm left wondering what is really left for them?  

29: Grudges, Sports, and Rivalry

Aug 25, 2016 00:56:00

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Evolutionary pscyhology explains grudges, sports competitions, and the rivalries that go with it. 

28: Listener questions & call-ins

Aug 18, 2016 01:00:00

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If you've listened to an episode and had some questions or comments, now's the show to call in and ask them.  Email me with your questions  BeatYourGenes@gmail.com  or call in 657-383-0751 live at 8:30pm PST.   

27: How to Make Great Friends

Aug 11, 2016 01:10:00

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How do we make such great friends? We'll answer this question by going over an article called "Why Men Are Better at Friendship Than Women"

26: What He Says vs. What He Means

Aug 4, 2016 00:59:00

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A humorously scientific look about what men say vs. what they mean.   

25: What she says vs. What she means

Jul 28, 2016 00:58:00

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A humorously scientific look about what women say and what they really mean. 

24: Keys to a Successful Relationship

Jul 21, 2016 01:01:00

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We will discuss: - Why Do Relationships Fail? - What your partner says vs. what they mean - Comment on ways to "Hack Your Relationship"   ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Feel free to call with your own story, question, or comment at 657-383-0751.  We are live on Wednesdays at 8:30pm PST.  Or email us at BeatYourGenes@gmail.com

23: Do opposites attract?

Jul 14, 2016 01:04:00

Description:

In this episode, we discuss a prominent psychologist's approach to relationships (called Emotional Focused Therapy) and how it relates to evolutionary psychology.  We will hear a discussion between Dr. Lisle and a Marriage & Family Therapist on the differences between their approaches.  We discuss an article about the key to relationship happiness.  We go over more real life examples and questions. 

22: More real life examples of relationship conflict

Jul 7, 2016 01:02:00

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Listen in as we go over a few real examples from our listeners of relationship conflicts.      If you have a situation you'd like some help with please email us at BeatYourGenes@gmail.com or call in to the show live on Wednesdays at 8:30pm PST at 657-383-0751

21: Real life examples of relationship conflict

Jun 30, 2016 01:01:00

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Listen in as we go over a few real examples from our listeners of relationship conflicts.      If you have a situation you'd like some help with please email us at BeatYourGenes@gmail.com or call in to the show live at 657-383-0751    

20: Common Relationship Problems & how to solve them

Jun 23, 2016 01:03:00

Description:

Nate G and Dr. Doug Lisle discuss common dating traps that men and women find themselves in.   We will also go over some listener comments/emails.    If you'd like some advice from Dr. Lisle, feel free to email us at BeatYourGenes@gmail.com or call in live at 657-383-0751 at 7:30pm PST on Wednesdays. 

19: Common Dating Traps & how to avoid them

Jun 16, 2016 01:02:00

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Nate G and Dr. Doug Lisle discuss common dating traps that men and women find themselves in.   We will also go over some listener comments/emails.    If you'd like some advice from Dr. Lisle, feel free to email us at BeatYourGenes@gmail.com or call in live at 657-383-0751 at 7:30pm PST on Wednesdays. 

18: Which men and women "hook up" the most

Jun 9, 2016 01:01:00

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We discuss which type of people hooks up the most.

17: Caller asks Dr. Lisle about polyamory

Jun 2, 2016 00:58:00

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Pyschologist Dr. Doug Lisle, PhD, takes a call from a man looking to learn more about human mating psychology If any listeners would like to call and ask advice from Dr. Lisle for a show, please email BeatYourGenes@gmail.com

16: How much to spend on a first date?

May 26, 2016 00:56:00

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Using the tips and tricks from evolutionary psychology, we talk about first dates and what they signal to our potential mates.   Dating can be confusing, frustrating, intriguing, but also fun.  If we are aware of the signals we're sending, we can modify our behavior to send the right signals.     

15: Making Yourself More Attractive

May 19, 2016 01:08:00

Description:

We continue on the topic of Love, Sex, Dating, and Relationships - how to make yourself more attractive and how to outsmart your genes when needed.   Nate G talks with Dr. Doug Lisle, PhD about evolutionary psychology and how it relates to dating & relationships, common issues that come up, and how to improve yourself to attract better partners.     

14: More on love, sex, dating, and relationships

May 17, 2016 01:07:00

Description:

We discuss real life situations to find what we need to do to find happiness.  To do this, we have to sometimes go against our instincts. This is called "beating your genes".  Listen as I, Nate G, your host, talks with Dr. Doug LIsle, evolutionary psychologist,  about life, love, relationships, and most importantly finding happiness in the modern world.    We are live on Wednesdays at 8:30-9:30pm PST.  If you have a question or comment, or maybe even a complicated situation that you'd like some advice on, feel free to call us live at 657-383-0751 or email us at BeatYourGenes@gmail.com .  

13: Making Yourself More Date-able Part 2

May 12, 2016 01:04:00

Description:

You might never become a Brad Pitt or Cindy Crawford, but that shouldn't stop you from trying.  Last episode, we went over the right moves to make to make yourself more attractive to the opposite sex. This show, we'll get to all the listener comments and questions about how to make yourself more attractive. Join Nate G and Dr. Doug Lisle in a show designed to help you find happiness and navigate the modern world with what you've got.  A show where you''ll learn how to outsmart your genes to find true, lasting happiness.  We are live every Wednesday at 7:30-8:30pm PST. Callers are welcome to call in at (657) 383-0751 at that time with any questions no matter how "simple" or "basic" you think it is - We'd love to chat with you.

12: Making Yourself More Date-able

May 5, 2016 01:02:00

Description:

You might never become a Brad Pitt or Cindy Crawford, but that shouldn't stop you from trying.  In tonight's episode, we will go over the right moves to make to make yourself more attractive to the opposite sex.   Join Nate G and Dr. Doug Lisle in a show designed to help you find happiness and navigate the modren world with what you've got.  A show where you''ll learn how to outsmart your genes to find true, lasting happiness.  We are live every Wednesday at 7:30-8:30pm PST. Callers are welcome to call in at (657) 383-0751 at that time with any questions no matter how "simple" or "basic" you think it is - We'd love to chat with you.      

11: Love, Sex, Dating, Relationships Part 3

Apr 28, 2016 01:04:00

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We'll be following up from last week's episode on the same topic.  Callers welcome.  We are live Wednesdays at 7:30-8:30pm PST.   If you've always wanted to talk to a psychologist about something, we are happy to take the call no matter how "simple" or "basic" you think the question is.      

10: Biological Clock, Sexual Variety, Settling Down, & Male Groupies

Apr 21, 2016 01:02:00

Description:

This is a follow-up to last week's episode.. We will be going over more common mistakes that we all make in the mating dance that is dating.   ************************ Callers are welcome to call in this episode 657-383-0751 You can ask Dr. Lisle a question about a personal issue or just call in to comment on something ***********************   If you've ever had a dating experience where you felt you coudn't control yourself or the eventual outcome, that was your genes compelling you to behave in a certain way.  This is a double-edged sword.  On one hand, you can be optimizing your genes surviving but on the other hand, it may be detrimental to long-term happiness.  We have evolved to enjoy the pursuit of love & sex through dating and relationships.  In this episode we discuss how we can optimize happiness in this area by beating our genes. 

09: Love, Sex, Dating, Relationships

Apr 14, 2016 01:01:00

Description:

If you've ever had a dating experience where you felt you coudn't control yourself or the eventual outcome, that was your genes compelling you to behave in a certain way.  This is a double-edged sword.  On one hand, you can be optimizing your genes surviving but on the other hand, it may be detrimental to long-term happiness.  We have evolved to enjoy the pursuit of love & sex through dating and relationships.  In this episode we discuss how we can optimize happiness in this area by beating our genes.   

08: How to get along without going along

Apr 7, 2016 01:00:00

Description:

Ever have a pushy friend that's trying to get you to do something you don't want to?   It may seem like the only way to get them to understand "no" is to be rude or leave.   In this episode, Dr. Doug Lisle, PhD discusses how to get along without going along.  For a variety of scenarios it is in our best interest to get along with our friends, family members, and co-workers.  However, that does not mean that we have to just do everything they want us to.   Learn some unique tips and tricks for staying firm but remaining pleasant. 

07: Understanding Your Personality

Mar 31, 2016 00:59:00

Description:

We will be discussing personality diffferences and what role they play in different life circumstances.  For example, if you ever had to hire an attorney to defend you, you would want them to be a generally argumentative person.  If you had to hire an accountant, you'd want them to be very detail-oriented.  Similarly, if you are a naturally passionate and highly extraverted person, sitting at a desk job in your own cubicle all day long can be miserable even if it's a great job.  How can you meet these challenges while staying true to who you are?   

06: Gender Dynamics and Differences in Men and Women

Mar 24, 2016 00:55:00

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We discuss the biological difference between men and women, how this translates into modern society.    

05: Stone-Age politics vs. Modern-day politics

Mar 17, 2016 01:00:00

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Where do political views come from?  As you will hear, Dr Lisle explains that political differences evolved from our basic need to optimize the survival of the stone age village.  This results in a natural split of political views that essentially desire to either "share more" or "share less".  

04: Beat the Genes

Mar 9, 2016 00:58:00

Description:

More discussion about the concept of "Beating Your Genes"

03: High Cost of High Expectations

Mar 3, 2016 01:01:00

Description:

Motivation and expectations are supposed to go hand-in-hand.  The idea being - if you're expected to achieve a goal, your motivation kicks in to meet these expectations.  This is true BUT (and it's a big but) ONLY IF those expectations are reasonable.  If not, motivation actually whithers away.  In this discussion with Dr. Doug and Nathan, we'll be talking about how this process works, why it works the way it does, and how to effectively overcome high expectations. 

02: Stepping stones to Self-Esteem

Feb 25, 2016 01:01:00

Description:

Dr. Lisle discusses some important findings about understanding your self-esteem.  For many years and even today, self-esteem is considered the crux of happiness and fulfillment in life.   Often thought of like a vitamin, many psychologists assume that we "need" self-esteem in daily doses to feel accepted, happy, and satisfied with life.   Dr. Lisle discusses this notion and offers an alternative way to look at self-esteem.    

01: Beating Your Genes

Feb 18, 2016 01:01:00

Description:

In this interview, Dr. Doug Lisle, PhD, psychologist with over 30 years experience discusses some of his most important findings regarding health, happiness, and everything in between.   Dr. Doug talks about some important findings that suggest that the purpose of life (biologically) is quite simple - to spread our own genes and ensure their survival into the next few generations.  Because of this, our entire biology, physiology, and psychology is built around this goal.  It's been like this for the entire history of our species and we have survived in nature due to this goal.  All of a sudden, comes the modern environment of convenience and innovation in an incredibly short time frame.  With this new environment comes a new set of challenges that our brains were never designed to solve.  As a result, people may end up chasing happiness in all the wrong ways.   Dr. Doug will discuss a novel approach to find your path to happiness.